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- Опубліковано 25 вер 2023
- Former FBI agent and body language expert Joe Navarro breaks down the various ways we communicate non-verbally. What does it mean when we fold our arms? Why do we interlace our fingers? Can a poker player actually hide their body language?
Check out Joe's book "The Dictionary of Body Language"
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He’s definitely someone who can make you admit everything just by his personality
No
yeah he seems pretty chill; ''ok sorry mate, you're right, I'm KGB, well played.''
TheSpaceCoyote82 it could and it couldn’t but well most of what he said made sense he’s also not showing his body language so i think he definitely experienced situations out of his head
TheSpaceCoyote82 But that's the point. Even if he's not right if he can influence you to believe he is then he accomplishes his goal just the same. This is the point of psychological manipulation.
It's a dangerous if it's used wrong lol
I'd love to see how they view the body language of people with ADHD. Can they tell if they have it, or do they assume they're hyperactive or moving so much because they're lying or nervous? Just an interesting thought that I'd like to see explored!
Their impulsive and some affected academically
@Sandee i'm pretty sure that wasn't the question but yeah
As a Counter Intelligence Special Agent I’ve got a good amount of expertise in the matter. For one before looking for any of these indicators you need to establish a baseline for their behaviors when at rest. So while someone with ADHD may be more fidgety, or hyperactive normally, while lying they may actually be calmer. People with ADHD tend to hyper focus on certain things. So when lying people need to think harder. It’s harder to keep a story straight when lying than to recall true memories. There’s a lot more to it than that but that’s a basic overview.
@Big Bird When you suspect that you're being judged for your behavior and it is more than a cursory thing such as being pulled over by the cops for speeding, I think that it serves one well to show a tic or affective disorder up front. This makes it difficult for the person who is looking to accurately size you up. How many people know how to evaluate somebody with a pre-existing neurological disorder? Even if they suspect that you are just messing with them, it will still throw them off. For the most part they will make up their minds according to their experience. Be outside of that box and you won't be easily read.
@Big Bird how much do you actually know about adhs, autism spectrum etc?
The level at which governments fully understand the citizens is alarming at best
@Trash Forky …we must live in two different countries lol
Then seek to understand the government more than they understand you.
@x if we are wut we eat, and they're feeding off fear,
He actually wrote a book that is very detailed and I would highly recommend it it’s called the power of body language this guys has helped me understand people in a different light and he is definitely a great instructor
@flamersss its literally written in his comment
Yep
Can u tell me the name of the book plz???
@Afrid Abdullah are u blind
@Afrid Abdullah power of body language
An important caveat is that when interviewing anyone, you need to establish a “baseline” for their individual body language. Maybe they are naturally more nervous or nervous because of the situation. So you first ask questions you already know answers to to see how they react. Watch how they move when they tell the truth. Figure out their “normal”. Then, you can ask calculated questions and see if there is deviation. You are looking for *clusters* of indicators - not isolated indicators.
Stop watching T.V.
Smellegance Exactly. A good investigator/interrogator would take this into account. Untrained people who have watched a few videos on body language use a superficial or pseudoscientific approach and jump to conclusions - “your standing like this so you must be lying!”.
@James surprisal...can u suggest so good book for layman person to understand non verbal communication..
exactly. Specifically for interogation techniques, they leave the suspect alone for quite some time, just to analyse what the suspect does when alone (baseline) and when confronted.
Smellegance I was thinking about my ADHD and how that would make me look nervous/defensive and all I could think about was how funny it would be lol
I'm an Eastern European and I can confirm that carrying flowers facing downwards is something I'd definitely do and see nothing strange about it
Depends on the flowers and what ocasion theyre for....So bs
@Povilas Kuznecovas it wS just an added reason to think a certain way of a person. Not something that would completely represent someone...
@Mister AEOh i do understand that but sayin imagine everyone is a suspect , no matter what u do. There has to be additional information compatible with a person of interest along with strage behaviour .
Bez kitu
@Pazeros what language is that?
god his children must’ve had such a hard time lying to him
Meet the parents 😂
Maybe they've become experts...
😂😂😂😂
Part of the job
🤣🤣🤣
He probably pretends not to know when they lie.
I'm glad that those "signs" he laid out at the beginning were myths. I've put so much effort over the years into avoiding showing these signs by accident so I don't come across as untrustworthy, and when I do them by accident I always felt like I'm somehow maliciously deceiving people or myself without knowing about it. This puts my mind at ease - self-soothing, if you will
Same
Myths or not regular cops use these as to see wether your lying to them so I’d still practice that if I were you. I know I do.
Self soothing if you will💀
@Kailey Winter bro really put ‘💀’ 💀
You should go to a doctor. If that was true.
Love that he first mentioned crossing arms and looking away. I cross my arms often to relieve anxiety and I usually tend to look away when being explained something because I'm visually processing information they tell me.
Yep. It all depends, he is just saying. Take it for example. If he were to explain in depth it would take years to edit.
Self-hugging… But then again, would you self-hug if you felt comfortable and confident?
For me when im uncomfortable like in groups i have my hands on my pocket the pocket is like a bed for me
Key takeaway: Every body language is transmitting some sort of information. Just try to assess but do not over-judge, especially if someone cross their arms or roll their eyes in different direction. It may not mean anything. Also, you can move around to identify the most comfortable space with others
If someone rolls their eyes in different directions I think it means call emergency services
We really needed an expert to tell us that, right
This is the most interesting thing I've seen in a long time. I can feel this guy's passion and attention to detail. The way he described seeing pertinent nonverbals jumping out at you as if a caricature when played at double speed was INCREDIBLY perceptive. I'm so intensely interested in this individual and his affinity to human behavior.
It easy to tell when someone lies. Their noses grow longer.
This guy is good at his job. Need more people like him.
Lol
Oh stop 😆
Imagine trying to lie to your dad who is in the FBI
You will be deported for being a spy.
You would just be more clever most likely.
🤣😂
That’s a good one.
I bet that has happened a few times.
IKR
maybe you became an extraordinary liar with special skills. xD
I remember I was in an argument with a friend if mine and I crossed my arms. She instantly called me out on it and said if I'm being open and honest then why did I cross my arms. Thats a defensive stance. Later I found out that this was meant and a self sooth which I find more realistic. That situation was stressful for me so crossing my arms made sense I do that when I'm anxious or upset
Not my case. I never fold my arms unless I want to show aggression. I do it deliberately as it accentuates large arm muscles and is a warning of what could potentially unfold. I have never in my life folded my arms outside of that situation. Body language is not an exact science at all...
@M747HVY because people are not equal
@M747HVY I think you'll find it's subconsciously done. Different thing
I like this guy. He's got very good energy and I love his relaxed but yet serious mood he's got going on. Also very intelligent and he definitely is a very confident dude. I don't know this guy but he's got my respect.
0:00: 🕵♂ Nonverbal communication is key in detecting deception and understanding people's thoughts.
4:41: 👥 The importance of nonverbal communication in assessing individuals and their behavior.
9:26: 🃏 The video discusses the importance of observing body language in poker games.
14:08: 💬 Nonverbal communication is crucial in our communication with others.
Recap by Tammy AI
I’d be interested to know how they analyze the activity and body language of blind people. I’m blind, so I would assume that my body language is nothing like a sighted persons, simply because I’ve never seen normal body language. How would that effect things?
How did you write that?
@Walter, the Cat people who have vision impairments have technology installed on their computers, phones, whatever technological devices they choose to use, which will then read the screen to them. So on my phone I can write by touching the screen just like you would it tells me the letter and then I give it a command to insert the letter. I can also write messages with a Bluetooth keyboard, or use dictate like the rest of you.
@Official Nolan LaValley What about Braille Keyboards, do you not use them? or have access to them? I wish you a great life, btw. :)
That analysis would be interesting, although I would think the differences may be due more to the fact that your interaction with the environment uses different senses and therefore may have different responses. It seems the self soothing type movements would be the same for all of us, not due to our observing them in others. I may be completely wrong.
Praying that God heals you and your blind eyes be made open in the name of Jesus! Amen! :)
i’m glad that he said that self soothing behaviors doesn’t necessarily mean someone is lying
if we had absolute body language interpretations then nobody would ever even end up committing crimes
I usually touch my nose or mouth or chin because I am socially very very awkward to remove my shyness a little bit I do that since it's covid time I no longer have to do this because I have mask now
a lot of time it's to soothe people through lying though.
@yokuku yeah I do the same, that's partly what he meant when saying those actions don't necessarily mean lying, but it's self soothing
Same. I have issues with anxiety and I tend to do alot of these self soothing things, like touching my face, rubbing fingers, crossing arms and playing with my hair.
The scary thing about body languages is once you master the reading
you master your control over your own body language as well
you will be able to manipulate people with ease by reading them like a book while hiding your true intentions and misguide those who can somewhat read body language by fully controlling your own body
"You can't have a poker body."
That's the dream right there
@chumbo okay edge-lord
@Ella yeah, I've never heard of sarcasm either
Shhhh :3
my dad was a Drill Sargent in the Army, he had the ability to read people's behavior like this..it was unnerving to have him explain my behavior to me
Ok
You can't read people's behavior. It's a fantasy.
maybe you can't, but there are some who can..
@Patrick Parsonlet's call it energy
This is especially interesting to me as an autistic person with CPTSD. I had to research neurotypical body language for years in order to mask effectively, because when I'm unmasked, most people interpret my body language as indicative of my behavior being avoidant, uninterested, or dishonest, and as a result I've noticed that usually people treat me better when I am actively masking. It takes so much energy on a day to day basis just to keep up this behavior, and I've become very introverted because of it. Solitude is a relief. I love how Mr. Navarro breaks down behaviors as self-soothing, not necessarily a tell of dishonesty. I wonder how other neurodivergent people feel about this.
I was just about to comment something similar… you said it so beautifully. I am in agreement! I prefer only unmasking around my close circle who knows my sincerity despite my contradictory facial expressions/body language. I’ve tried otherwise and have just continually confused people. Given how fleeting most interactions are on a day to day I find it best to utilize a bridging, which is to say, to speak “their language” and mask. I do try to find a balance, where I’m not forcing joy when not feeling it, but I am for instance, more subtly expressing my eyes and lips and tone, so it’s clear enough what I’m intending. 🤍 I hear you, it takes a lot of energy. I have to be sure to make a lot of space to myself to recharge
yeah you might want to tone the masking down thats going to damage your health
@jackjackum it's a balance. However it's better to foster a good self esteem and self value to where if people don't like you for being you it's seen as a good thing because there are so many people and you'd rather have authentic people in your circle. Stim or be stimmed by the muggles.
I’m glad you brought this up because I’m autistic and I had the same thoughts as you
Hang on there, you are not alone!
Watching this vid, it makes me wonder how much of the time is taken up with him being consciously aware of the way he sits before the camera and the image he projects? That's a whole 'nother level of discipline and body language reading right there! And a good question to ask yourself: How does a reader of body language choose to sit? There's nothing casual, accidental or subconscious about it. They must be so aware of there own mannerisms at all times.
i mean, i don’t think he’d need to consciously do too much. as long as his body language isn’t giving away any unwanted information, there’s no issue with it. he’s making open hand gestures, speaking calmly, and not slouching or showing any other specific emotion. pretty much the same thing as any businessman.
I am naturally good at reading body language,so that makes me so conscious of my own body language,it's exhausting
The man, the myth the Joe Navarro! Love his books, such an interesting man.
Dude, this is confidential.
Sir..
Please return my loli manga.. please....
YOU'RE confidential!
When can I join 🖤
We've compromised.
No more russians
Absolutely love this video.and,of course i was watching his body language as he's both exposing common myths and explaining body language.
14:09 I took several interpersonal plus non - verbal communication courses at SFSU and utilize such knowledge gained daily. It really helps out when encountering crooks/thieves.
Can you point out to some resources/links/ books/videos/courses etc to learn this? I've been taken advantage of because of my gullibility and my general lack of judging ability. This will help me a lot.
I found his observation of the poker players fascinating . It would be interesting to show a longer segment on that .
The guy is giving a simplified summary for total beginners and people think it is an exact account if the methods they use. Agents have spoken with innocent and guilty people, their knew how to account for simple nerves and a guilty person. They know how to establish a baseline to account for individual traits. And most importantly, none of this can be used too convict you. They can't just say "yep he's the murderer, he is lying" and throw you in prison. It is just a tool to help then when interrogating so they can have an idea if when they are being lied too, or who they should focus on. They still need to investigate and find actual PROOFV to convict you. If you didn't do it, they can't convict you just because you seemed like you were lying.
he forgot the part where people are constantly judged for their race gender and ethnicity, all these intricate details and the wrong people still end up behind bars with the blame for someone else’s actions
@Eden Frost it wouldn’t be relevant to the video if the way people are treated based on physical appearance didn’t impact their body language towards the people their talking to, and it does. so if you were to follow the steps in the video, you’re still prone to misinterpreting someone, its very relevant, and if it wasn’t innocent people wouldn’t be brought before the criminal justice system as often as they are. 2023 just started and you’re calling me a mut get your priorities straight and have a good year
Growing up in certain environments I can say that I do almost none of these. It’s crazy how much childhood experience can completely change everything about someone. My father is the passive aggressive type, who often guilt trips and then tries to brush it off and then tries to put something on you then brush it off and we’re always being sarcastic. theres mistrust in the relationship, constant lies and a rocky marriage. Picking up on his intentions and what he tries to do to me when he speaks. He uses vague language so I can never really hold something against him without sounding accusatory and angered. I haven’t figured out why, but I end up avoiding communication in every way. Im self aware of everything I say and do. This sounds like an edgy attention grabbing comment but it’s the truth. I don’t react when I find something to be repulsive, painful, hilarious, impressive, scary, or breathtaking. Its like my body is still, and I have to manually forge a reaction that fits what my thoughts were when I saw it so that people don’t think i’m ignoring them or that i’m just a rude person. The only behavior I notice myself doing is wiping sweats palms on my pants. This is all I have to say.
3:10 Imagine working years to get the American way, the perfect accent, the behavior, the way they act, to finally pass as a 100% American and in the end, flowers gave you away, wow.
I DIDNT KNOW THERE WAS A SPECIFIC WAY TO HOLD FLOWERS??
I FOUND THE FLOWER THING SO COOL
It's a european thing (not an eastern european thing). It's because of the water. You want the water in the petals not in the paper and so you have to use gravity.
@loew Probably correct. Americans think in terms of they want the flowers to be showing, like you are showing them off even, something that goofy possibly. The Europeans probably don’t care because they want the flowers to be preserved.
@loew I'm English and I hold flowers like they are a baby 🤱 or I hold them up right i would never hold them upside down. So idk
This guy gives me some comfort. I’m highly anxious and do a lot of the things some of the other body language people say indicate deception. It’s just my anxiety. I’m glad to see this guy looks at it differently.
People have no idea how great this guy is.
I have one specific question to ask. After all those 20 years of spying and reading people's behaviors, after he retired can he still look at people the same way he did before joining FBI?
Can he talk with a random person he meets on street without subconsciously reading his behavior?
I’ve always been interested in the study of body langue. In middle school it was really easy to read someone’s mood. For example, I would always know who liked who just because if their body language towards that person etc. Right now I’m in high school and it’s easy to read someone’s body language.
Same here ,its gets exhausting Beng conscious of your own body language although mostly people hardly notice
Great content, I've always been interested in learning to read body language "nonverbals". Really very interesting
I've always found that the best way to learn how to read body language, is to be able to read your own body language first.
👍
exactly
💯
that’s how i got so good at reading people. well said dude
But I have ADHD though ;-;
As he talks about body language you can see he is trying to maintain his own body language at the same time. For example, when he talks about the movement of feet he is suddenly able to keep his feet still because he is consciously aware that his feet will be being judged at the same time. He is sitting on a chair in the middle of an open room. You can see he isn’t completely comfortable with it. He’s okay about it but you can tell he’d rather have something in front of him like a table so his whole body wouldn’t be fully exposed. Look at the way he sits with his legs, one back under the chair and one situated in front. This is him trying to maintain control over his own body language in front of the camera. He’s trying to look unbothered. To some extent he’s definitely very comfortable with himself. In fact I’d say in general life situations he’s very comfortable with himself and has confidence but in this situation he’s not as comfortable as he usually would be. He feels slightly exposed to the world due to the nature of the conversation and knowing his own body language will be judged as he talks about other peoples body language an his expertise of being able to read it.
I have been analysing his body lang through out and you can see he is so conscious
I mistakenly grew up thinking you were innocent until proven guilty. I dont know when that changed but found out that law enforcement in the US, believe you are guilty and must prove your innocence. That's why you need a lawyer even if you didn't commit any crime. So just knowing that they think I'm already a suspect would make me nervous and give off guilty vibes.
Right? It's crazy how much that is now true!
Like Trumps take away the guns first... then figure out if v they broke any laws!
That is messed up. In my country it IS *innocent until proven guilty.*
It’s cops job to gather evidence for the prosecution, the State
Anything
Can
And will
Be used against you
Just to get a verdict of guilty
That’s all they want
Not to figure out who’s guilty
You are confused. That has nothing to do with whether law enforcement will suspect you or investigate you, that solely has to do with the standards they need to use to convict you. Cops can proceed with an investigation on relatively minor suspicions, they don't need to know you are guilty. What would be the point of investigating if they already KNEW you were guilty? The entire point is to discover if there is any proof if your guilt. Then the standards for arresting you are also much lower than for convicting you, although they offer to make sure they can't get a conviction before they arrest, unless it is an emergency. But they cannot convict you of a crime just because it seems pretty likely that you are guilty, they need to prove beyond reasonable doubt that you are guilty. In places like the UK, they can't arrest you on suspicion, and if you can't prove that you are innocent, you will be convicted. In the US they need to prove that you are guilty, it you must be acquitted. That is what it means. So you are apparently mistaken.
Excellent video! So helpful. Appreciate it very much, and it shows clearly that this is a good man.
Wow. Impressive. It's great to listen to a genuine expert.
Why didn't he become a card shark if he was so smart...
I'm alarmed by all this but definitely not surprised, otherwise without people like him, our world would be in chaos.
Daughter: He’s just a friend.
Him: the shake of your left toe says otherwise
Omg 😭😭
💀💀💀
I love how you wrote left toe as though he only has two toes 😂
"Right-o, right-o... ." "Why do keep saying 'Right-o', Ramjet." "Because you're standing on my right toe!": Roger Ramjet hilarious cartoon series. (Look it up)
@tom ryan with jokes like that, no wonder nobody has ever heard of it. Painfully unfunny
Love learning this info! It’s fascinating! Thanks for making this video. I’m going to get that book.
I never thought about getting away with small crimes but thanks for the lesson bro. I feel like I've been safely taught to get away with everything.
I know why teach people this hahaha
It also just really depends on the person. Some people are very good at naturalization, and being able to just understand people by their tone and stature.
It's all about how confident you are when you're been questioned by the police and never make eye contact with the people who are questioning you. Always remember that because they are trying to read you.
I read his book in the hopes of understanding myself and I am right, not only did I recognize my behaviors but I can recognize others too just by their body language depending on context.
Wouldn't anyone be stressed and uncomfortable if they are talking with an FBI agent even if you have done nothing wrong?
Thats why they baseline you first. Ask you What's your name? How long you've lived here. Hobbies? Favourite place to eat? Shoot the breeze. Then see what's different when you throw in the Columbo questions.
If they played good cop bad cop
When i am close to police officers or a police station,i feel guilty for some reason even tho i did nothing bad 😂
@Venice it's like walking out a shop without buying anything :D
@Venice Same. It's nerve wracking
I hear you and I love the information you have been able to provide us all on this life 14:44 ❤️
The "looking up when you're thinking" is a tricky one. I know I do that because I'm making sure I'm definitely not forgetting details because I DON'T want to mislead someone. However, I went to school with a girl who proved time and time again that she was essentially a pathological liar and what ALWAYS gave it away was her doing this. Because of her, I really notice when people do that and in my experience have come to find that most of the time it's due to the latter 🤷🏻♀️
I read in a Subliminal psychology book that the directions your eyes point towards can mean different things. When your eyes point up and right it could mean you're trying to access a visual memory. When they point up and left it means you could be coming up with a lie or planning deceit.
Downwards and left means you are hurt and downwards and right means you could be brooding over something or lost in thought.
@Brandon Pinto ooooo interesting!!!
@CLH yusss no matter what book we read, it's best if we look out for/apply these in the real world and test the veracity of these claims ourselves. Whattaya say?
@Brandon Pinto Didnt he say in this very video that that is just a myth? like at 1:40
Wow this was very informative and he's very smart, I didn't know that people held flowers in different ways, I thought that they're always supposed to be directed upwards and one thing that bothers me about some people is that when they stand too close to you, like back off, everyone should maintain atleast 1 or 1.5m distance unless you're close family or close friend, I had an elder friend like that and she would just come way too close without any reason and I would take 2 steps back but then also she won't come way closer and I just hated that, I should have said back off but I didn't, anyways now I'm more confident and now I speak up about things, expressing your discomfort is not a bad or rude thing at all and it should be respected, if not then you're with the wrong people
Non verbals are deep rooted in psychology, however,I liked it when he said it's for analysis rather than judgement
Now that I've seen this video, I believe that I am an expert on reading body language. It borders on psychic ability. I'm in your head right now.
I didnt understand anything they said but I believe it was interesting
@def not naruto it doesn't really matter if you understand it or not. What's important is that you have watched a video about body language and so now you can bring that up in conversation as the defacto expert in the category. Winning
You do *NOT* want to be in my head.
@Sheppard oh okay.... I'm sure ur so crazy.... 🙄
There’s not much in there, but could you find the math folder for me? I lost it. thanks!
His body language told me that he was thinking “so these idiots think I can teach 40+ years of experience and education in a 15 minute video”.
🤠
Hahahha
HAHAHA. FUNNY. YOU JUST WOOOOSHED HIM. LMAO VERY FUNNY
MarioKPC R/whoosh
So gladdened to have been a part of this. Nice meeting everyone on set.
Good stuff right there for the taking. Many of us feel it naturally and this just helps hone this skill even further, for protection. Love the delivery. Make it more palatable. Thx for sharing. Looking for book now.
I worked for TSA and I looked at Non-verbals all the time. I worked at this small airport and this guy came through the checkpoint and was acting really erratic. A coworker came to me and asked how do you feel about this guy? I finally realized he had autism. I was able to explain to my coworker how he was sitting (like a child) as a grown man with his mother. I had an advantage because of my experience. You just have to look for the baseline of people and if they act outside that box then you have a better chance of figuring it out.
This information is important for women, especially, to read any stranger who might approach without an “invitation” to do so !!!
Thank you Joe Navarro !!!
Don’t be paranoid it’s a dangerous world but some people genuinely just want to meet new people or be friendly
A lot of us have very bad anxiety which causes us to over read into people and situations. That includes body language like crossing arms, looking away etc. really those are just nervous habits to help calm us down.
Can we make this a series I love learning abt body language/behaviors
If you loo it up on you tube. Their are probably tutorials.
Alex Smith He wants a professional analyst......
The agent in the video, Joe Navarro, has actually published a book about it. It's called "What Every Body is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People"
Well,
There is a series called "Lie to Me" that used to be on Netflix. Atleast in my country. But I'm not too sure if it's 100% scientifically accurate... It is a show for entertainment after all but I believe there are at least a few things that are true in there. Anyway, I loved the series. Was really interesting and entertaining. Didn't like the ending though...
Short summary: It's basically about a "private investigator" of sorts, who specialized in reading "micro expressions" and body language and detects lies, deception and all sorts of emotions with his techniques. May be something for you! :)
Ragesquid The show “lie to me” is actually based on Paul Ekman’s research on body language (he’s a psychology professor at USC). Highly recommend checking out his books if you’re interested in that subject.
What's in our hearts, comes out of our body language, the tongue, the clothing style, color.
Yessss!!! I have really bad anxiety and people think I'm guilty of something. I love this. Thank you
Me too
He is so right about how idiotic it's to think that crossing arms is blocking behavior I see many speakers being offended when they see someone in first row has cross arms and they proudly tell that it means this person is not interested but it's actually comfert position for many people.
the amount of fear this honestly struck in me is unreal. it's hard to believe there are some people who look at the detail of their daily interactions
This guy is a certified genius
Imagine being in highschool about to take a girl out for a first date , you get to the door and this is her dad waiting to see into your soul .
And then you try to propose to her with flowers and her dad arrests you for being an European spy
Make sure there's nothing in your soul to see... LOL!
Most fathers want to see inside your soul when you take their daughter out for a first date.
Dr. Cal Lightman🔥
@Zero Cat lol
😂😂😂😂😂
Your tutorial videos are amazing. I decided to go back to creating soft after 16 years. soft soft is so easy to get into, but also offers
The body language and what it means makes sense, it definitely says a lot about humanity.
The unmatched perspicacity coupled with the sheer indefatigability of this man makes him a god of the human realm.
As a non-spy and non-European, I have carried flowers that way. If you go walking along holding the flowers upright, the weight of the flower blossoms is bouncing on the stems and it only takes a little damage to the stems before the flowers wilt. However if you carry them upside down there is far less weight on the stems and so your less likely to do damage to them. Its really kind of obvious. While I can see why he thought it means the person was European, it might just has well have meant he was smart.
I love it cos these are the things that I do when I’m questioned, but innocent!😂
Confidence and anxiety can greatly change all of these mannerisms. A confident person could be holding still and firm and they could be lying about everything they say. Someone with anxiety could be squirming and look guilty but they’re being honest.
What if it’s a confident person that is lying about having anxiety ? 🤔
exactly, I'm perpetually anxious, I am constantly tapping/ pinching myself constantly for no reason at all
@ Nathaniel Jones
Ahh I can’t look people in the eyes when I’m lying.
@MoeDoesThings Then you have stumbled across most of the popular girls of high school
They would base it on certain questions. They won’t just say “he’s twitching, he’s guilty” they would base it on how you react to what they say or ask
„ that’s how they carry flowers in Eastern Europe” my grandparents in Poland always instructed me to carry the flowers facing down because they insisted that this way the bouquet would not lose its shape and would look fresh for longer… I never knew it was a cultural thing, I just thought that it makes sense to carry them this way, because otherwise gravity would make the bouquet lose its shape faster… and I think it’s true. If you are transporting flowers and you want to protect its looks in shape then it’s better to carry them this way…
My Portuguese mom has always told me this as well!
Yea. I know it that way too
Here in Germany it’s the same
that’s exactly how we do it here
I was severely gaslighted , criticized, and insulted as a child, I was the victim of a raging verbally abusive mother. I struggle with feeling guilty all the time even for things I have nothing to do with. I believe I always look nervous and like I'm hiding something. It has hindered my jobs, because I look like I'm hiding something I did wrong. I always wondered if a professional body language interpreter could tell I was abused or would I just look guilty.
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Heres my advice, it may seem like, obviouse but u should just ignore it next time it happens. Learn to tell whats real and whats bs and forget all the stuff your mom told u. If u dont pay any attention it cant affect u
if you want to change something, i recommend focusing on the words you speak. they are easy to control and improving at using them will do you extreme good. i recommend “never split the difference” by chris voss as a first read and then the 22 negotiation books listed on the harvard law school website for a deeper dive.
@ananananananananananananananananananananananananan omg i read that book it was so good. I learned a lot about how people talk, and on another note, what people say or tell u fosent actually matter. Think bout if its something u should listen to, if not just ignore
Dude this is some useful information thanks wired for providing it at 0 cost😊
Its wonderful how he increases his hand gestures when talking about non verbals at the end.
Wow, this was super interesting. I definitely learned a lot!
_"Somewhere, they say you can have a poker face, but I don't think you can have a poker body"_
Best quote, gonna remember that
P-p-p-p-p-p-p-poker face
"Where.is Somewhere then you will have a poker face?"
@Cesar Maracaibo around the end of the video I think
@Bro what 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@Bro what bro what
More of this guy please. Way more. The ewu crew wants him.
My old boss would always follow me around the restaurant as I worked and stand very close to me and lean in closer when he wanted to speak to me. I would always take a huge step back, and he just stepped closer. He seemed totally unaware of it and it drove me insane because it always felt like him trying to create this sense of intimacy, while I was always trying to get distance. I had to explain the concept of boundaries to him. Kind of subtle on the surface, but I was hyperaware of it
Is his name John Taffer? So aggressive
It's interesting to ask "are these universal?"
Because, for example, scratching the back of your head usually means "I'm troubled" or some such in English standards, but in
Japan it usually means "I'm embarrassed"
I wonder what the boundary conditions are with body languages introduced here
"I'm troubled" and "I'm embarrassed" is very similar on a emotional level, right? I dont think you can draw a sharp line between such emotions, especially because you can be both at the same time.
One of the very best.
His book, “What Every BODY Saying” is a superb introduction to body language and Kinesics.
I'm curious to know of any of these are different if the person has a mental condition. ADHD makes people more fidgety (most of the time), so would they be easier to read than others? And what about physical conditions like Down Syndrom that affect the physical features you're reading?
"Forehead can reveal the amount of stress we had during the life"
Oh boi, poor Gordon Ramsay
bald people: ....
More like poor Emeperor Palpatine
Poor Dr. Phil
Hahahah
emily brooke They’re talking about the crease lines that form over the years. Gordon has several deep ones.
We need more videos like this one.
this is so fascinating. Adding it to my immense store of weird knowledge haha
I didn't know he was also on UAclips, I read his book. Very interesting and very practicable
Very well explained!
I had read their book and it was masterpiece.
Him: starts talking about how many times people blink per minute
Me: starts blinking uncontrollably
Bruh I started to do that
can relate, i guess i blink around 20 times lol
For some reason I wouldn’t let myself blink, and started counting his blinks? WT
@Joy 7 Yes. then he blinked about 15 times in 20 seconds.
Just like how he approached those two having a conversation and started talking about space, they started overthinking about it.
Like suddenly you start thinking "Well how fast am I supposed to blink?!" :P
He is so good at this that gives you the impression like he is not aware of his surroundings
Understanding nonverbal communication is how my ancestors survived! I've had to use my psychic ability as well as the gift to be able to be beautiful and almost 50 and flawless. Being able to analyze yourself and everyone around you is truly important it is the best college education especially in the that you can have! 🥰
There's a way to escape people reading you through body language: thinking with this line of thought when about to do anything: "What a drag..."
Try to implement it in everything but still doing everything not because you must, but because you need to, and your body will automatically be relaxed by itself, while your way of talking will be fluid. And your face would almost be expressionless.
The first half got me hooked. Because I always cross my arms, and touch my face. But I'm always ready to open those arms and give a hug to when my friends approach me. I always thought it was odd when they said it means you're being stand offish if you if you cross your arms. I thought, no it isn't. Thank you.
As an autistic person (with ADHD as well), I wonder what would happen if he tried interpreting my movements because I do a lot of random nonverbal movements and don't do a lot of "those nonverbals that neurotypical people just do instinctively when talking to someone." whereas I don't even know they exist.
When you have social anxiety and don’t know how to hold yourself when talking to another humanoid creature
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LOL... can relate
I’m apart of the CIA. I have anxiety issues a bit of Depression and Autism. I find it hard to talk to people but I’m used to it and try not to f*ck up my job
@Mamoru no offense but the first thing that tells me your not in the CIA is you saying you are in fact in the CIA, that's usually something people keep confidential when working in an intelligence agency
@KK oh cool! You have reddit. Oh and by the way. The joke flew past you.
you’d think an FBI agent should be smart enough to know that trying to read body language is about as helpful in determining guilt as spinning the bottle on suspects
All this is true UNLESS the person is faking it, EVEN if they are left alone in a room. Military training taught me a lot about deception and lying.
One time my narcissistic dad got mad at me because my arms were in the “self-soothing” position because he misunderstood what it meant. Which now speaks volumes to how uncomfortable I was around him.
An interesting and informative video. Thank you. 😉