Paris Paloma - labour [Official Video]

this is absolutely a love letter to women throughout history. as historian rosalind miles points out: part of the reason men were at the forefront of so much innovation throughout history isn’t just because of lack of education for women, but because they were free to do more with their time as women were carrying most domestic and emotional labour in the home.

A message to future generations: Don't let this song die

1:55 "if we had a daughter i'd watch and could not save her" this part brings tears to my eyes every time i listen

I absolutely love the symbolism in her choosing to eat a pomegranate. Pomegranates are used in so many ways in different religions and myths, but in every single one it is a symbol of womanhood, rebirth, or something of the sort. It’s such a powerful choice to use that as she eats in rebellion.

I love the double meaning of "so he never lifts a finger", but I love even more that it's only implied. This song doesn't have to just be about someone who's deliberately, physically abusive. It can also be about the average husband, the generally "nice" guy to whom it doesn't even _occur_ how unbalanced the relationship has become. He takes care of the kids sometimes (maybe once or twice a week), he does other chores (as long as she neatly keeps track of which chores are His, asks him nicely, and patiently waits for him to do them on his timetable), he even cooks dinner from time to time (when the wife buys all the ingredients he needs for him). He's not violent, and he doesn't have to be. Society's programming has worked the violence for him so efficiently he doesn't even have to be aware it's there.
When I say "average husband", by the way, I mean statistically--the numbers show that women in straight relationships are disproportionately responsible for the housework and childcare, even when they _also_ have a job. If you're a man, and this song doesn't apply to you, that's awesome that you and your partner have a healthier dynamic! And if this song does, well, this is a great opportunity to take the initiative in fixing things. "Taking the initiative" is one of the heaviest burdens to bear in housework; don't put that on her, too.
EDIT: I didn't like how I referred to physical abusers as "cartoon abusers", nor how I tried to declare what the song was "about", so I edited those lines to be a bit clearer about what I meant.

To all the men who are mad in the comments :If this song/ music video makes you mad and defensive, you are the kind of man that she is singing about. You're seeing yourself mirrored in this fictional man, and you are angry about it because you are being told your behavior is wrong.

I love that we don't see her face at the start, like how many women have lived and continue to live as faceless, nameless entities, whose work is never acknowledged as theirs - I love this song for so beautifully expressing both power and grief

I'm not even a wife yet, not even a girlfriend, but this song took a chainsaw to my soul. Sitting here silently while my rage is simmering for every women going through this.

Can we just talk about how clever the line, “Nymph then a virgin” is like it just ties in the impossible standards that men have for women so perfectly. They are expected to have the bedroom experience of a nymph and be sexually arousing or seductive without ever actually having had sex before so they can still fulfil their sick fantasies of an untried virgin.
Like, its all just so frustrating and impossible

As an Asian woman. This is what we were taught in our cultures. Be a girl in a set path, remain a virgin for your husband, be a good wife to warm his bed, be a baby maker to continue the bloodline, be the family's cook, be the family's maid and house keeper, be your husband's decoration so he could use you to brag to others. Time has change and things are getting better but there are still men and old people in our cultures who thinks of women as free slaves. All in the name of 'duty'.

I love how the song is introduced with this eloquent and poetic tongue and then right before the chorus she breaks out of it and goes "and I'm getting fucking tired."
The shift is so perfect, so spicy and beautiful.
It's just another aspect placed on women she is breaking away from - that swearing and speaking aggressively or speaking out in general is not seen as "lady-like."
This woman is an absolute genius.

My mom just left my abusive dad after 37 years of emotional torture, and I am beyond proud of her. I just sent this to her, if you see this mom, I love you!

I love how this isn't about a physically abusive relationship but about how the labour demanded of women by patriarchs kills us.

"So he never lifts a finger" has 3 meanings.
1.That he never does any work.
2.That he won't abuse her.
3.That he won't acuse her. (Pointing)

My mother blasts this in the car when my father is also in the car. The look on his face is always priceless. Still waiting for them to get the divorce papers over with.

For some reason this made me think of a Norwegian folktale I haven't heard since I was a child. There is a husband who is always angry and constantly complains about his wife not doing enough at home; so one night the wife offers to switch places the next day, and the husband happily agrees. It goes terrible and the wife eventually comes home to find him stuck upside down in the porridge pot.
I used to love hearing it as a kid, a grumpy man who gets taught a lesson and all. Now however it leaves a bitter taste in my mouth as I see how deep of an issue it still is today.

For all the men saying "we men go through stuff too"
Did we say you don't? This particular video is about women.
And also another thing I'd like to add is, women, ourselves talk about OUR problems and bring attention to them OURSELVES. Everytime you see someone talk about womens issues, they are most likely women themselves. There are plenty of men that do support us but there are plenty of women that support you guys too! If you want to bring more attention to talk about YOUR problems, do it yourself.

I burst a capillary in my eye giving birth to my first daughter 12 years ago, and then pumped milk for her in a supply closet while she was under the lights for jaundice. It was so painful I bled, while her father told me my eye disgusted him and mooed at me for feeding her.
When I made him food he didn't like, he'd spit it out into my hand.
I'll probably never pay off the loans I took out to help support us both.
It's been a decade, but the rage this song stirred in me is overwhelming.

this truly is a love letter to all the hundreds of millions of women who have lived and died, nameless and faceless and unappreciated, terrified and violated and unfulfilled, lonely and clever and murdered. we see you. we're sorry.

As a 16 year old hispanic girl- this song is so important to me. This is the life so many women in my family died living- and the mindset i still experience from the men in my family. And when i say that as soon as i turn 18 I'm leaving it- i mean it. The generations of women being trapped in this born and raised system of serving toxic and abusive men ends with me. And it's going to be hard- leaving my mom, my sister, my grandma- but I will never let my daughters and her children feel as worthless as the women in my family do. My daughter will live with a voice, that we didn't have before - and i won't have to apologize for giving her that life like my mother apologized to me. Her name, and her blood, won't trap her like it has me.

THIS SONG HITS ALL WOMEN RIGHT IN OUR MITOCHONDRIAL 🧬 DNA( the one only mothers pass down) listening to this song you can feel the vibrations of the women in the past through this….

The fact that some people nowadays say that women aren't oppressed anymore or feminism isn't needed or is about 'female superiority' gets to me. I have seen it in my home. So many have. So many go through this everyday.

I also like the "nymph, then a virgin" line because as women we are expected to be craving our men, but if we vocalize things like how we WANT to be pleasured, we are silenced because men either can't handle being inadequate or we are literally just baby machines that shouldn't feel anything other than what men want us to feel and be readily available for their "basic human need". And then after it all parade us around like a matron saint of purity in the public to their peers and we are to remain quiet after having an unfulfilled sex life(i only ever had sex with one man for 7 years and he never made me orgasm), possible kids we didn't want (thank God I don't have any), and a public image we have to maintain unless we be seen as slutty or inappropriate even though men do the same and are celebrated. And then if we aren't in the mood, we are the bad ones (even if the aforementioned man made me sick everytime he had sex with me and when I wanted to prioritize my life after he hospitalized me several times with varying levels of bad infections, I'M irrational and that justified him to rape me.) This line and the "it isn't love if you make her" makes me feel heard and like I can hear the hurt of all women through time that felt similar (especially ones like myself that was in a misogynistic cult/religion and a bad relationship that ended worse.) I love this song so much and thank you for making it and giving women a voice that can't be silenced anymore!

Singing this for my grandmother and mother, who gave EVERYTHING for a guy for them to disregard their labour and kill their women slowly.
I broke this curse.
My husband lets me eat first. I cook he does the dishes. I do the laundry he cleans the kitchen. I mop he scrubs. And if we don’t feel like doing labour, he pays for a maid. He pays for my needs. I clean after him he cleans after me. We are in this together. He tells me and shows me how much he appreciates me. Guys like him exist. Raise your son to be a guy like this.

“So he never lifts a finger” can have two meanings. One, he never does work. Two, so he doesn’t hit.

The pomegranate symbolism is powerful. This fruit represent fertility, marriage and desire but it can also represent death and feminine independence.

As someone who has been fully transitioned to a man for over four years now, this song has put an anger in me for all the woman who came before me, and all the woman who continue to be forced to live in this condition. I never quite thought I’d feel this type of anger again, and it’s still just as frustrating to remember.

Yesterday after two years of emotional and physical abuse i took our 12 day old daughter and left

This is to my grandmother, a delicate elegant lady, a true artist who was married off at 12 to a 27y old cave man .
And to my great grandmother, a 14y old slave who died giving birth , and no one remembers her name because she didn't even speak their language 😢.
* I can now paint , hike , say no to marriage, become a doctor , take dancing classes , have my own money ...
Thank u for the sacrifices❤

I had a baby a few months ago, and nobody prepares you for how incredibly true all of this is once the baby arrives. All of the hidden labor that you already did is multiplied by 100, and things you need help with that should be absolutely obvious are all up to you. It is lonely, isolating, and infuriating.

The pomegranate is a symbol of renewal and rebirth in some cultures. The fact that that's the food she reaches for as she rebels against her 'master', and devours it hungrily, tells such a powerful story of aggressive protest against oppressors.

I wonder what it feels like knowing you wrote a song that so perfectly encapsulates the rage and sadness of generations of women.

I have to prepare a presentation for school about any song we like and why we choose the song and I am going to choose this song❤

As a daughter of a father who always degrades me and tries to pick on me all the time, I relate to this song so much!!! Just last month, I got out of my depression phase and cleaned the whole house and I was pretty proud of it. But my "dad" caught that and mentioned it and told me I shouldn't be proud of cleaning because even MAIDs can do those works. Lol I don't even have any words for that.

At the prompting of this song I evicted my abusive ex from my home. At the prompting of this song I moved his stuff out. Never have I felt such power. The echo of "too much labour"
It took a year to get him out and he was EVERYTHING in this song right down to the grooming of his son to be exactly as he is. No matter what I did I was drowning in all of it.

“I know you’re a smart man, and weaponise the false incompetence, it’s dominance under a guise.”
I’m speechless.

The background vocals being children at the end enrages me and breaks my heart. This is a masterpiece. Every little detail is perfect

Left a relationship where his mother wanted me to be all these things, and he was so proud she was forcing this down my throat.
That’s really putting it in a “long story short” format… but man, this song makes me want to roar into the sky until god himself shutters from the shriek in my lungs.

I’m currently trying to escape one these relationships for the sake of my unborn daughter… this song really did hit home for me..

All the horrible men in the comments here only goes to heighten how prevalent the exploitation of women, women's labor and the constant effort my men to silence us is. This song is very relevant to our lives.

I love the line “Apologies for my tongue, but never yours” because women are expected to be quiet and submissive, not loud and outspoken like men. But the line also sounds like it could be “Apologies from my tongue” as women feel like they have to apologize for every little thing while men get a free pass. Simply amazing lyrics.

The fact that this is a universal experience between all of us women makes me want to cry so much.
I feel this song in so many levels and I want to share it but all the people in my community would not approve of it.

"Apologies from my tongue, and never yours." "If our love died would that be the worst thing? For somebody that I thought was my saviour, you sure make me do a whole lot of labour." I cried, these lyrics hurt so much. Thank you.

Seeing all these women from different cultures speaking about this is amazing, as an Afghan woman my culture literally treats women and girls this way but the girls are too blind to speak out against it.

You created not only a song , it's a spell and a call for all women all around the world. So thank you for speaking your heart and soul. THIS IS A MASTERPIECE

I love the line ‘it’s not an act of love if you make her’ referring to marital/relationship sexual assault blending perfectly into her complaint of being forced to do and be too many things. It’s subtle but important

In case you're curious about the comments (at this point 7,231) here's the gist:
- People particularly loved : the candle part, the pomegranate (with plenty of good pointers on its symbolism), the kids singing the chorus and that part `it's not love if you make her`
- A lot of people, men and women, see their experiences and those of relatives in this song, and there are some truly heart breaking stories in these comments.
- Shout out to all the women from Asian countries, Arab countries, South America and African nations. A lot of the nations in these parts of the world have mentalities towards women way too close to what the lyrics of this song describe. Stay strong everyone.
- These stories still happen in first world countries as well. There are plenty of examples of injustice and inequality. Probably enough in this comment section to write a thesis.
- there are plenty of supportive men in the comments.
- if you wanna read the comments from the 'mad men' you have to scroll to the very end, that seems to be the quarreling section with long replies. There are indeed a few, but not that many.
And that's about it. I was curious enough about the replies to spend about an hour of my life reading them. Not everything in the comments is five star, but the song definitely is. The comments here are often times beautiful, interesting, raw, and make for a good social analysis.
Cheers to all the brave folks here telling their stories. Take good care and keep going!

This song just came in time for me. I’m glad I found it, because (sorry I’m gonna rant a little) yesterday me and my mother slaved in the kitchen to make a Ramadan fator, we made so many dishes to please each of my siblings and my father has his own fator to make since he has cholesterol and diabetes.
Not a f*caking thank you, just complains.
After that we cleaned the house and by cleaning I mean CLEANING since tomorrow (today) we’ll have gusts.
Me and my mom were tired and she’s worse since she’s pregnant and in her 8 month.
We decided to give them the leftover from the fator as a sahor (like a dinner but it’s really late) because we made so many dishes.
My father did not like that, he yelled at me and my mom looking at the food like it was garbage.
After he’s done with my mom he talked to me in a disappointed and angry voice telling me how much of a failure I am , how I don’t help my mom or cook or do anything useful…. while eating the food …
I felt like shit and still do. My stomach hurt and I feel like throwing up if I look at food or him.
And it’s not helping that he hits sometimes when he’s angry or punishes you (kicking you out in the clod/hot and other things).
I’m tired of this but if I speak my mind they’ll say I’m too sensitive and be angry at me even my mom.
This song was so therapeutic to me I appreciate your effort and wish you all the success and fame you deserve
Thank you for who ever read this vent of mine, I know it’s pathetic to write such thing in a UAclips comment section for a song, but I really need to get it out of my chest and I don’t have any safe space to do so.
All my love to you kind people my your days be blessed 💕

This song is like 1000 times better than I could’ve ever imagined. It really captures the feeling of being a woman during all History. It has such feminine rage that we can all feel it through the screen

as a trans woman this is not my woman's rage, but it is a woman's rage that i will fight tooth and nail to see create change. solidarity

I'm so into this song lately. My daughter is into it too. Such a great message. My husband/her father sure does a lot to support us. He cooks, cleans, does everything that needs attending to, plus working a full time job. I became chronically ill after our third child and he stepped up so hard. He's my hero. If anyone's doing too much labor, it's him. But that's not the norm. Do better menfolk. Be like my husband. Step. Up.

As a mexican with african heritage, this song hits really hard. Women in Mexico have to go through all that their husbands do, and be like, oh, he cheated, its ok, it probably was my fault. And, both my aztec and my african ancestors went through so much in the lands of Veracruz, this, misoginy, slavery, colonism... It still fills me with rage to know what all the women before me had t go through.

This is why I’m so grateful to have the parents I do. My dad broke the standard he was raised with. It’s always been equal work, if my mom is tired my dad will cook, if my dad is tired my mom will. My dad raised us as much as my mom did, he helped around the house as much as she did. There were no expectations for her that he wouldn’t do himself. They both taught my sister and I that we deserve to be treated as equals, and anyone who try’s to treat us any less is not worth our time.
My parents broke the standard and taught us to do the same

In the beginning she says “this was an escape plan”. Not a breakup. Not a divorce.. an escape. This is the first line that indicates that the man is not just incompetent and lazy, but violent as well.

Watch how he looks amused as she starts eating before looking angry. He feels like she's a joke before she keeps going, she proves to him she's serious. gods i love this song

To the people who disagree/degrade her messenge...
Congratulations, You have just proved her point

Im not a wife. I am not girlfriend. But i still feel the emotions and feelings this song has. And it should be same with everyone. Every woman goes through this. Look at your own mom.

the weaponised "incompetence" thing is too real for me rn. The boys at my work do such a shit job of basic tasks like sweeping or making sandwiches. I got sick of having to re-"teach", point out, and micromanage them to the point of just doing/redoing the job myself but I know that's exactly why they do it 🤬 it's because they've learnt that they can get away with it. I'm gonna start calling their lazy asses out plainly from now on

Despite having never been in a relationship I feel her rage, its like a fire. Never let this song die, ever

As a man, I absolutely love this song. Had me in tears a few times.

The feeling I get from this song is so ancient and so deep, I feel like all the rage from thousands of years of oppression to the women of all history is united into this song and it's incredibly powerful

Lyrics:
Why are you hanging on
So tight
To the rope that I'm hanging from
Off this island?
This was an escape plan (this was an escape plan)
Carefully timed it so that we'd go
And dive into the waves below
Who tends the orchards?
Who fixes up the gables?
Emotional torture
From the head of your high table
Who fetches the water
From the rocky mountain spring?
And walk back down again
To feel your words and their sharp sting?
And I'm getting fucking tired
The capillaries in my eyes are bursting
If our love died would that be the worst thing?
For somebody that I thought was my savior
You sure make me do a whole lot of labor
The callous skin on my hands is cracking
If our love ends would that be a bad thing?
And the silence haunts our bed chamber
You make me do too much labor
Apologies from my tongue
And never yours
Busy lapping from flowing cup
And stabbing with your fork
I know you're a smart man
(I know you're a smart man)
And weaponize the false incompetence
It's dominance under a guise
If we had a daughter
I'd watch and could not save her
The emotional torture
From the head of your high table
She'd do what you taught her
She'd meet the same cruel fate
So now I've gotta run
So I can undo this mistake
At least I've gotta try
The capillaries in my eyes are bursting
If our love died would that be the worst thing?
For somebody that I thought was my savior
You sure make me do a whole lot of labor
The callous skin on my hands is cracking
If our love ends would that be a bad thing?
And the silence haunts our bed chamber
You make me do too much labor
All day, every day
Therapist, mother, maid
Nymph then a virgin, nurse than a servant
Just an appendage, live to attend him
So that he never lifts a finger
Twenty-four seven, baby machine
So he can live out his picket fence dreams
It's not an act of love if you make her
You make me do too much labor
All day, every day
Therapist, mother, maid
Nymph then a virgin, nurse than a servant
Just an appendage, live to attend him
So that he never lifts a finger
Twenty-four seven, baby machine
So he can live out his picket fence dreams
It's not an act of love if you make her
You make me do too much labor
The capillaries in my eyes are bursting
If our love died would that be the worst thing?
For somebody that I thought was my savior
You sure make me do a whole lot of labor
The callous skin on my hands is cracking
If our love ends would that be a bad thing?
And the silence haunts our bed chamber
You make me do too much labor

"Love letter to women throughout history" as someone quoted in another comment and rightfully so! A masterpiece of a song highlighting women's role for centuries, the suffering and pain they went through. How grateful to be in a time now that gives us rights and freedom, all thanks to other women who fought for it with some even sacrificing themselves for it. ❤

I never in my life experienced this kind of torture but I can just feel it. The sadness the anger all of the emotions from this song that women experienced throughout the history.

My mum sent me this, told me dont ever overwork yourself for your husband, dont let him sit there while you do everything

Maybe this is just me, but the fact that the beginning was very mumbly and then grows to be more clear would have such a deep meaning. Incredible.

I don't know if it was an intentional artistic choice or just how it sounded best to her, but the fact she doesn't necessarily get loud throughout the song is interesting to me. You can hear the anger in her voice, yeah, but she doesn't YELL like I've seen some people want her to. The background voices get louder/cry out at one point, but the singer herself keeps her voice relatively level. Makes me think about how women's anger is meant to be quiet. Palatable. If a woman acts out or yells in anger, she's seen as hysterical, crazy, and over-reactive. She's supposed to keep it to herself, or at least keep it quiet enough that people can ignore it or brush it off. Even when she's digging into the food with her hands, she's still covering her mouth at times before seemingly not caring anymore. Her anger is controlled. She gets FIRM, but not loud, and I find I actually like that better than the idea of her going on a yelling rampage.

“Silence haunts our bedchamber” hit hard. I was in a relationship for years with a man that if I wasn’t in the mood, would refuse to talk to me for days on end, even when he knew it caused me anxiety so bad that I would shake. It was just… easier to let him do what he wanted. To play along as I’m in pain cause I’m not aroused, or just lost in my own head trying to just get it over and done with. Like, I would try to make it as quick as possible, getting him to come, saying I had had an orgasm, so that it was over. If I didnt lie about the orgasm, he would keep going even tho I wanted it to end. It was like a pride thing for him. I just… I am so happy I’m out of it now, but the scars run deep.

a bit of a different take on this: I was raised conservative evangelical and in church communities its the women who teach sunday school, work in the nursery, provide coffee and snacks after the service, do the administrative work, etc. yet when my mom wanted to be an elder there were still many people who argued women shouldn't have leadership roles and most churches don't allow female pastors despite women doing the majority of the ministry work already

“It’s not an act of love if you make her.”
Can we just talk about inclusive this lyric is? It includes women that have survived hundreds of different backgrounds and undergo mass amounts of trauma, bringing it into light in a song that has almost 10 million (as of now) views. Fucking genius.

"And weaponise the false incompetence"
This is such a good tactic pursued by so many men and we sometimes overlook this.
Such good lyrics.

I love how she started soft and angelic, like the start of a relationship. It's like she's symbolizing an innocent girl. Then when a man starts to show his true colors, he starts to make her do chores, pass his responsibilities to her. At first she apologizes and tries to please him. But at the end, her singing becomes strong as she realizes her worth. Beautiful ❤️

“I know you’re a smart man, and weaponize false incompetence. It’s dominance under a guise” THAT FUCKING LINE AND THE SUBSEQUENT LINES HIT HARD. This whole song is so beautiful and heartbreaking yet at the end so strong

I see much of my mother in these lyrics. Glad that she broke up with my father. And glad that I'm breaking the vicious circle ✊

goosebumps

Men should be thankful we want equality, not revenge..... who am I kidding... Revenge it is.

i’m a saudi women i cried so much listening to this song

after being the primary breadwinner for so many years, my father has been out of a job for over half a year. Since that time, my mother has been working fulltime, taking care of my siblings, making dinner, grocery shopping etc. My father gets mad at her when she stays up late or works overtime. He doesn't even clean the house. I love my father but it's disappointing to see his inability to fill the roles that aren't traditionally manly and make my mother do everything.

What struck me about this song is that EVERY woman knows of another woman being treated like this or has gone through it herself. No sister is untouched. And there's a deep, deep fury about that. Even if not personally, throughout history, women know.

This song hurts because It's true. Makes these men mad because It's true.
My mom raised me and my twin brother alone since my abusive dad(If It's possible to call it like that) passed away when we where 4. She needed no man to do it all by herself, no man is stronger than her.
One of these days women will have the freedom and rights they deserve.

Men are mad because they realize we were never happy to do these things and this song dispels any illusions they may have had otherwise.

Love love love this song! Unfortunately a lot of this is true. I'm not a wife nor have i ever experienced something like this myself, but I've seen it with my mother and with friends...

this song is so so powerful omg thank you for this masterpiece and uniting women all around the world

my heart bleeds for all our deceased and living sisters, who had and have to go through this.

This song just epitomises how women's roles are consistently delegitimised. Even the stereotypical housewife is not seen as real 'labour'. Cooking, cleaning, managing the home, taking care of the children is a job. Just because it's not paid, it's seen as somehow 'worth less'. Stunning.

‘It’s not a act of love if you make her’ why is that so hard for so many people to understand

if this song doesn't get nominated for at least a a grammy and also isn't performed at the grammys, I'll start a riot.

This song is like an echo all the generations of women that came before us, crying out through the ether.
"All the women
in me
are tired"
-- Nayyirah Waheed

This is a masterpiece. Thank you for sending this message.

I know I shouldn't say this out, but this song brought me to tears. I could see my mother(s), my sister(s), my friends felt throughout. I could play out my life and be the guy. I can relate to the feigned incompetence so well. I've seen everyone doing that but was not aware of it. The sudden realisation hurt me so bad. I see that I'm a product of societies' and the things that happened to me. I can really understand my mother so much. I still cannot explain the emotions and memories it brought up. I think I am a better person now. Thank you for creating this work of art.

The symbolism of her lighting her candle and watching it burn down while his is unlit and barely touched is perfect

"Its not an act of love if you make her" more ppl need to hear that

I feel like this song is so important. It's a letter to the women who have come and gone who lived under the rule of men. Even our mothers and grandmothers. The chanting effect of the chorus is haunting.

There was a time my brother was jobless and he literally waited for us to come from work so that we could do household chores and cook for him. He just sat around all day and couldn't even do utensils. His argument was that he is not a woman. He made me want to scream until my face turned red.

The voice, the music, the lyrics....this song is perfect from start to finish. 8,1 Million views is actually not enough. This song deserves even more views. Even the music video is great!

If you're a man and feel attacked by the words of this song, you probably are part of the problem.
Reflection and change is healing, you can do it

the rage that builds up through the song is devastating but so beautiful. this song invokes so many emotions. the line about the daughter breaks my heart and Im not even a mom

This song makes me so sad for my mother and the life she had raising her children

I was annoyed with hearing this song used in videos where people just slapped on pictures and Wikipedia facts to seem like they actually cared, but when I watched this and read each lyric, my entire right side had goosebumps. It was as if you wrote this for my mother. I won’t say my dad is an irredeemable person or that I hate him, but he’s been a living prison for my mother. She always tells me to never trust men enough to give your life to them, because they’ll just make you a servant in the end, but I still hold hope. I do want to find a man who will not see me as a labor. If it never happens, I shall have to ask for a companion like that in the next life. I know that women are worth more in the eyes of God than they are in the eyes of men. We don’t suffer unseen.

Shout out to Henry Hayward, who manages to project such a perfect air of quiet arrogance without saying a word! This video is so well acted and shot in addition to being a banger.